[Lissie]

Chez,

I am sorry that you are going thru a horrible time right now. When you say older i don't know how old that is - not being nosy. But as you can see from my signature i am no spring chicken. Dh and I tried ourselves but to no avail, oh we had a pregnancy but lost it that was my first, as i am older we too were told do donor eggs. AFter much thought we decided that genes don't necessarily make family - but more so love. So we went the donor egg route - likely a friend who was 35 at the time donated, we did not have time to sit around on waiting lists, we tried but it did not work, again a pregnancy but lost that one too. Then we were told try donor sperm, again this was more of a thought process for DH than for me - i was in the donation mind by now - so we tried donor sperm ( my brother in laws) and did not work. Then we were advised our best chance was to find donor embryos. Well we did not even have to think about it, we both just want a family, we have always been open to adoption, but we felt this might be closer so by the grace of god we found donors almost immediately, i still don't know how we got to be so lucky, someone has been smiling on us i guess. We were given 4 precious blastie embies, as our donors are both very young in their mid twenties, we were told only one to be transferred at a time. We have used 2 already, the last being my latest lose, this one was ectopic we have two chances left and we are not loosing faith just yet. Chez, you have so much to think about, do what is right for you and DF - do what makes you feel good. We have gone thru so much councilling its not funny, we are totally happy and at peace with our decision and so is our donors, whom we still stay in contact with, they are wonderful people. My SIL is 42 and only 6 weeks ago gave birth to twin that were naturally conceived. I know of two other woman that were 45 when they had their last kids, it does happen even to the older ducks. Hang in there.