Ibid to all! Is this a midwife who you have been consistantly seeing or was this the first time you met her? Remember that it is well within your right as a patient (public or private) to request a different midwife if you don't gel with the above one.
At any rate, you certainly sound like an informed couple and it doesn't sound like you will get pushed into something you don't want. Re. the ultrasound and induction....no one can force you to drive to the hospital and get them done
Good luck. Hope you enjoy perusing BB....it's such a great site!