I agree with you guys, it is better to identify any issues early on so they can be dealt with asap! I am actually an OT, and he would probably (ironically) be referred on to an OT if any issues are identified, which has compounded the guilt I think, that is I, if anyone should have been able to identify any issues!! But we are a bit blind sometimes when it comes to our own little darlings.
Your kind words mean a lot, thanks for your replies and support. And you are all right, he is young, everything turn out OK in the end and I did what I could at the time.
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