[CalebsMum4Eva]

Purplemamma ~ Good on you for 5 births the way you wanted them! Well done!

Tenny ~ I don't really get my Aunty sometimes. She has had 3 children, all healthy, but 'back then' things were obviously done differently.
At dinner I didnt eat the pate and soft cheeses - my choice. She laughed, yes, actually laughed and said "Thats a load of BS".
I declined the alcohol - my choice. She said, "you would have to be very unlucky for 1 drink to harm your baby, everything in moderation is ok".
I informed her that in my role as an RN in a NICU, I have seen what ONE drink can do. But once again, "you would just have to be one of the unlucky ones".
It actually quite upset me and I have only recently told my Mum of this, because she didn't actually hear the conversation.
When she inquired about our birth plan, she said "if drugs are on offer, why aren't you taking them. They wouldn't offer them if we weren't supposed to have them." I was so shocked at this that I didn't know what to say. I know pain relief is available - for women who WANT it. And it's their right to have an epidural or gas or whatever - IF THEY WANT IT. I happen to be one who doesn't, so I should get shunned for this.
Its one thing coming from unimformed ppl, but when it's your own family - thats when it starts to hurt.

I will try hard to do what you all have said and 'ignore' the stupid, insensitive remarks. I think I might be overanalysing it? Pregnant brain and all...taking too much to heart?