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thread: Zachary - our boy born sleeping

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
    144

    Zachary - our boy born sleeping

    I am new to this forum as we lost our little boy 4 weeks ago. Zacahry was born on 24th July at 6.34am. He weighed 7lb 1oz (3.2kg).He never got to take a breath and we are devestated by the event. It was so unexpected and we were not prepared for anything like this to happen at 35 weeks! I just don't know how to get through each day. I feel like I am at the bottom of a pit that I can't get out of.

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jul 2007
    melb
    8,498

    Ohh thats terrible so sorry to hear this.
    Huge hugs to you

    Belly belly is an amazing place for support ask any questions or just vent anger and hurt and you will always get support.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Feb 2006
    Newcastle, NSW
    4,219

    Huge hugs to you sweetie.
    I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful little baby boy Zachary.

    ____________________________________
    DS1- 14 DD- 11 DS2- 18 months

    Noah Thomas born an angel 21 Feb 2006 (20w5d)
    Little Wing Oct 07

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
    144

    Thank you Lisa. I just can't believe it happened. I still wake up hoping it was all just a very bad dream!

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
    144

    Thanks feeb
    Glad you have your bundle of joy :-)

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Nov 2004
    Chasing Daylight...
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    Zachary's Mom I'm so sorry little Zachary was born sleeping I hope you find comfort and support amongst the BellyBelly community.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Dec 2006
    In the Angelic Realm
    1,675

    Dear Zacharysmum,

    I am deeply sorry for your loss and cannot even imagine your pain.

    Welcome to BB and am sure that you will find many supportive women here.

    My heart goes out to you.

    Be strong

  8. #8
    Registered User

    May 2008
    35

    Zacharysmum,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your gorgeous boy. I wish I could offer you some words to make it easier.

    Unfortunately, I have also lost a son under similar circumstances. It is heartbreaking and such a difficult thing to go through. Believe it or not, it will become less overwhelming with time. It is very difficult, particularly in the early days but I can honestly say that things do get easier.

    Take care of yourself. Try to eat well and sleep when you can - sleep is essential for coping. Seek further support if you need it. Hop on here to voice your thoughts and concerns - you will find many women who will understand.

    Danek

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    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Geelong
    3,438

    Hi,
    So sorry to hear of the loss of your precious little boy. No parent should have to go through this. You will get lots of support here on bb. Your baby will always be in your heart, hold him close. You and your family will be in my prayers, take care.

    Regards,
    Dianne

  10. #10
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2007
    Perth
    2,088

    I'm so sorry that you are going through this

  11. #11
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Coburg -Melbourne
    655

    Life is sooo cruel. To give you something so precious and then take it swiftly away. Zachary is a beautiful name and I am sure he was a gorgeous little boy
    I wish there was a way to ease your endless pain but sadly, only time will soothe.
    Has your Drs given any answers as to why this has happened?
    Seeking answers may help at least bring some closure.
    I hope you are well supported by friends and family

  12. #12
    Registered User
    Add Starfish on Facebook

    Apr 2007
    Sydney
    1,759

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your precious baby.
    Like another poster has said little Zachary will always be in your heart, will always be a part of you. Look after yourself during this time. Let yourself grieve. Take as long as you need. You will get better.

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Sydney
    1,226

    I am so sorry for your devasting loss of baby Zachary.
    Mother nature can be so cruel at times.
    My thoughts are with you..
    We all handle sorrow in different ways. Never be embarrassed to ask for help.
    Take care of yourself

  14. #14
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
    144

    They have not found any reasons at all. All tetsts have come back as normal/ Still waiting on some autopsy results. My partner and family have been great. I am really lucky in that area.

  15. #15
    Registered User

    Feb 2008
    1,163

    I send you a BIG hug.
    I have such a lump in my throat and tear in my eye reading your post.

    What a terrible and unfair thing to have happen.

    I don't really know what to say except that I am thinking of you - as it seems are many others here. I imagine that the world has stopped for you at the moment, I am taking a little time off now to think of you and your little boy too.

    x

  16. #16
    Mel17 Guest

    Thinking of you

    I am so sorry. words just aren't enough. We're so conditioned to think a healthy baby is a "given"...even if you were "high risk", as I was....you just don't allow your mind to process what that means. no promises, a hope, but nothing for certain. I too am still struggling, so I surely don't know the right words to make your day easier, but please know there are people who care and would love to help you if possible.

    I hope you have a picture or foot prints or something that you can hold/look at to find comfort. The hospital gave me these and although I can't deal with the pictures yet, i love to look at and hold his footprints. If not this, maybe there is some object that reminds you of your baby that can bring you some comfort.

    Many prayers for you,
    Mel17

  17. #17
    Registered User

    Oct 2006
    Adelaide, SA
    3,962

    I can not even begin to imagine the pain you must be going through right now but I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts.
    Please look after yourself.
    I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful little boy.

  18. #18
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2007
    Surrounded by kookaburra's laughing
    628

    Zachary's mum - I am so sorry for your devastating loss, no words will ever help your pain but just know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Just go with how you are feeling, no emotion is right or wrong, and as one of the other ladies has said keep your strength up by eating well and look after yourself as much as you feel you can. I know your feelings all too well, in February of 2007 my daughter Phoebe was stillborn and I honestly didn't know where to turn, I was so thankful for my partner and my family but I just felt nobody really understood,...until I found this website, other than my partner and family this and the women here are what have kept me going, its the first place I would come to speak of how I was feeling and the first place I came when I felt I wanted to try again, there are women here who will understand, so I truly hope that they can be such a support to you.

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