Buzzie i have to be super quick but will BBL- to answer one q for you my DD1's DC ALWAYS call me if she is upset and i go and get her. It sometimes frustrates me as by the time i get there she is ok but its nice to know they let me know. Also i can pop in or ring at any time to check on her. TBH i think they call me so much as she has chronic asthma and i think they worry she will get so upset and give herself an attack.

My 2nd point is you can always do it if you get the job and if things dont work out you can always leave iykwim. At least then you know you've tried and weather or not working is for you right now. I personally am lucky in the fact that DH has my girls when i work and DD1 only goes to care 1 day a week to give me a break and Molly some 1 on 1 time with me.

HTH a little