IVF experiences - Gargy and Montyp

[montyp]

We just got the call from the specialist

We did the EPU yesterday and fair much straight away were told that three would not progress, three were very possible, and the rest would have to wait

The specialist announced that only one survived, and they'll be doing the implant on Monday, not Wednesday
Gargy is shattered .. I'm being my usual stoic self .. wondering where to from here ...

[dusty]

Oh I am sorry you two. That is disappointing news I know. If you can hold onto the knowledge that many BFPs have eventuated from one lone embie. I can point you in the direction of at least one of those stories if you need it.
Good luck with transfer.
xx

[SeaChange]

Dusty I may need those stories - not today though.

Today we will just lick our wounds.

Doesn't help when going to the doctors for DH the doctor's mother brought in his baby girl while I was in the waiting room.

(Thanks universe for that extra kick in the teeth...)

[briggsy's girl]

gargy hun - that is just the worst possible timing!

there are many stories about the one embie doing the trick and i know eventually you'll feel up to reading but right now, you and DH need to just be with each other and wrap yourself in cotton wool.

just one story - BW was certain that her eggs were crap, that a day 3 embryo wouldn't make it - and look at her now. it's definitely not easy to accept when you've gone from ok to ordinary to absolutely crap news - but there is always a chance

and if positive vibes from your forum friends will make it happen, you're set hunny, cos there are sooooooo many of us who are riding this little embie home and holding onto the hope that i know you're struggling with at the moment

thinking of you both hunny

BG

[Tracey]

Maybe it was the universe ahowing you what 1 single emby can bring!???

Positive thinking goes so much further than lifting your spirits!!!

*however remind me this in Jane/Feb!!!

[Inanna]

You two... Just sitting here wanting to say something that will make a difference. It's not over yet darling - just do what you need to to get through this weekend and know you have loads of loving support from online friends.

[SeaChange]

My BFS said to me yesterday that I was looking at this the wrong way around - that I should be putting all my faith and energy into the one lone embie that did survive.

I just couldn't, because after hearing numbers like 12 and 8, and making plans for storage etc I was shattered when the result was one. And one that wouldn't even be strong enough to survive to a five day blast - that had to go back in after 3 days.

DH also had laryngitis yesterday, so I couldn't even talk to him properly about it.

However after the phone call this morning from the scientist, the one lone embie is dividing and doing pretty well.

So we've decided to call it Tenacious D - not after the ironic rock band, (although I suppose that would be relevant too - the irony of one surviving after 12 initially havesting) but after the original meaning: "Tenacious D"?the name used by sports commentator Marv Albert to describe robust defensive positioning in basketball.

So please start praying that Tenacious D survives the implant and for the two week wait - because we will definitely be.

Thanks for all your support, hugs and well wishes yesterday, it was really appreciated.

Today I am going out with my Mum to buy my niece a Christening present for next weekend - something life affirming and removed from our own issues.

DH is staying home to try to recover from the respiratory illness he has picked up from me (otherwise I would be going out with him).

Take care everyone.

[briggsy's girl]

i have everything crossed the Tenacious D is a fighter like it's mummy!

thinking of you both hun

BG

[~Saram~]

Gargy and MontyP - praying for your one little emby. It only takes one and think of the beautiful story of conception this little one will have, fighting against the odds. All the best

[montyp]

Thanks everyone!

[Aponi]

Big hugs to you both..

[suse]

Oh Gargy and Monty - just wanted to send you guys a huge hug, and let you know that I'm thinking of you both and will be sending you all the stickyness in the world over the next two weeks.

Go little Tenacious D.

[Inanna]

I think they were really wise words. And my prayers and positivity are going with TD!!!!!
That little guy is a fighter- and you both deserve the gift that I pray he will bring you...

[christy]

Oh guys my prayers are with Tenacious D! and with both of you.

[MsPink]

I hope TD comes thru for your guys..

I am so sorry..I know how it is to go thru all the drugs, hope etc and have a disappointing result.

I know it's no consolation right now..but sadly a lot of people have a disappointing result first round..but on the more positive side..the doc has more understanding of your tolerance to the drugs etc and how you react. I you wont need another round, but if you do..it may just be a matter of increasing the FSH to achieve a better result.

Take it easy guys - it's a hard rollercoaster to climb..

[montyp]

We got the call just after 9 this morning

Seems little TD is dividing quite nicely, and the transfer is scheduled for mid-morning tomorrow.

Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers, and well-wishes. Think of the three of us between 10 and 11 tomorrow morning!!!


montyp

[briggsy's girl]

will be thinking of you for more than just 10-11 tomorrow monty! i understand how truly scary this journey can be - and as i said earlier - if the thoughts and prayers of others could get you over the line, there'd be a guaranteed result!

for the time being though, i'm sending everything i can to Tenacious D - and wishing you both a restful night and uneventful transfer tomorrow

[AngelPunks]

Gargy & Monty - am going to do what a group of us did for BG - tomorrow afternoon after transfer going to be psychically stitching your cervix closed Gargy (if you don't mind) to make sure Tenacious D stays in there & then sending HUGE sticky vibes

Hugz
S