Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss June '08 #2 - Page 2 - Pregnancy, Birth & Baby Forums ~ BellyBelly

Willow · #19 (**permalink**) June 4th, 2008, 09:09 AM

Lisa - I think we're off to the Drs this afternoon too. *sigh* Feels like I'm there every few weeks between the three of us. DS still has a nasty cough and often coughing to the point where he gags or vomits, especially when he's eating his solids. So that with the last few really unsettled nights is enough for me to go and get him checked out (if I can get an appt). I truly, truly, hate dragging the kids down to the GP (especially in this rain) where we usually have to wait at least an hour and keeping DD happy in such a confined space is hard work!

Michelle - we still haven't had our 6 mth immunisations done. Firstly we were too busy with the relos here for his christening etc, then he had a cold, etc etc. I'm not comfortable having them done till he is 100% well again. It isn't a huge deal if they're a month or two late is it? I know they'll probably bring it up today if he sees the GP, that's all.

We had a better night last night, still not back to normal, but not as bad as the previous night. He went down at 6pm without much fuss, but woke up at 7pm and it took me ages to settle him again. He woke again at 9.30pm so I fed him and then he slept till 1.30am and then till 5.30am. We got out of bed at 8am so not too bad.

But as usual, when one's OK the other's not

- DD woke during DS' 1.30am feed and obviously I couldn't go in straight away. By the time I got there (yeah, thanks for your help DH!!) she was pretty upset and told me she'd done a wee in her bed

Whether she'd alredy done it, or whether she woke needing to go ad I didn't get there in time, I'm not sure. But determined to keep her out of nappies now so we'll keep going. She's done pretty well, that's only the second accident in 6 nights so I'm pretty happy with that for her first week. So I spent a few hours sleeping on the floor in her room! LOL. I'm at the point where any sleep is good, so not too bothered by that, especially because we're really trying to enforce the idea that she stays in her own bed.

Anyway, better go see if I can make this drs appt.

Willow · #20 (**permalink**) June 4th, 2008, 09:10 AM

Whoops, double post...

LisaL · #21 (**permalink**) June 4th, 2008, 05:25 PM

What a quiet bunch today.. you must all be sleeping........

Well Alexandra is OK, dr said she had a viral infection, which is why she is presenting with a rash on her tum and back but the fact that the rash has presented heralds the end of the virus. I just have to keep my eye on her, and keep up her fluids etc and should be back to her cheeky self in no time.

Willow - how'd you go at drs?

Spring Angel · #22 (**permalink**) June 4th, 2008, 07:03 PM

Michelle: I hope last night continued as well as it started.

Janie: Did the chocolate do the trick? Sounds like something is bothering DS, didn't you get a chance to look inside your crystal ball last night to figure out what was up

Lisa: I'm glad to hear that DD is ok and on the mend and that AF is getting back to normal.

Willow: How did you go at the docs? I hope you didn't have to wait too long.

Well DH is late....again. Meant to finish at 5pm but still working and it doesn't look like he is going to finish any time soon. I am working tomorrow so I've spent the evening getting everything ready for DS. They are going for a boys day tomorrow to see the Dad's and Bubs movie. It is the new Indiana Jones movie and DH is really looking forward to it. My mind has been running over time tonight. We have big decisions to make. It might be the case that DS and I move back to Brisbane a month or two before DH. It is all to do with leases finishing etc so we have a lot to think about. Our tenant's lease finishes in late July and they want to renew for 6 months but it is likely we will be moving back up there before then. I don't want to be locked in for another lease. The only issue is we don't know 100% when DH will be up there so it is taking a bit of a gamble. I'm sure my mum would stay with me to help us out until DH got up there, but I don't want DH to be away from DS for that long.

Any advice?

Lv Spring

Spring Angel · #23 (**permalink**) June 4th, 2008, 08:27 PM

DH still isn't home .... grrr at his work.... I don't think he has even left yet and considering he works about 40 mins away I think I might feed the boy head to bed without him.

Double grrrrrr.

Auntie M · #24 (**permalink**) June 5th, 2008, 01:31 AM

howdy everyone.
jo- big hugs, my dear. Storm is with you in your heart. these anniversaries are so troubling. just when we think we are back on our feet. xxoo
sorry i've been mia for a while. i've been trying so hard to get back to work (i know it is too soon, but we need the income), and i get such small snaches of time to do work and manage the house in between Reyna's needs. i guess all of my friends (in person and on line) have been put on hold. my dh told me last night i need to calm down and stop trying to do everything. so here i am -- trying to reconnect to my sanity. on the upside, Reyna is still lovely and gaining weight and snuggly. she's on acid reflux medications, and the unconsolable crying jags have lessened to where i can breath again instead of just crying with her because i couldn't do anything for her pain. anyway, it is good to be back, and i'll be popping in more often now. xxoo

LisaL · #25 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 01:19 PM

Hellloooooo....where have all the mummies gone...........???

Hi AuntieM - glad Reyna is setlted now adn that your getting back to some sort of sanity!

Me - off to the movies tonight for Sex and the City! YAY!! going to dinner first though, it seems like forever since I had a night out withthe girls.

Jayne/Spirng/Janie - how are the little ones??

Hope all is well...

Lisa xx

LisaL · #26 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 01:20 PM

God my spelling is terrible! LOL!

Willow · #27 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 02:27 PM

I'm here!

Very tired though as we are up to horror night #3 and counting...took him to the GP today but he couldn't find anything physically wrong (was mainly thinking his ears due to recent cold etc) so we're still at a loss. We are thinking though that we might be feeding him too much at night and this is upsetting his tummy. We discussed it with the GP and he said that if we are overfeeding him, it can cause reflux (he vomited again last night while eating his dinner).

So, current plan is to back off the food a bit, especially at night, and see how he goes.

Just a brag though - the GP was really happy with him and said his development is probably more up there with a 9 month old. He weighs nearly 10 kg!!

I am starting to get VERY scared about how I'm going to cope with such a small amount of sleep when I go back to work in September if this horror run continues...I just want my sleeping boy back! Days are still OK, thank god, I couldn't cope with both. Given the choice though, I'd rather he slept at night I think!

DH took the day off today and DD is at preschool so I went shopping and had lunch with one of my besties. Brought a lovely cardy that cost more money than I can afford, but bugger it. I did have a gift voucher I used too so that's my justification! hehehe.

Michelle - I need your address and DETAILED directions when you get a chance please!

LisaL · #28 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 02:51 PM

Willow, so glad there is nothing seriously wrong with him and

to L for being such an advanced lil bub. When alex was 6mo - her health nurse did the 8mo assessment, at first i thought she'd made a mistake but then when she explained that she was more like an 8mo - i was very smug! So brag away hun.....

Hopefully eating a bit less (try a bit earlier too) will help him settle to sleep. Alex was up between 12.30am and 2.30am last night, and she always sleeps right through, so im guessing now that her virus has gone, it must be the next round of teeth...great!!

Well im signing off for the evening, have to get everything ready so I can have my night out.

Hope you all have a great night....

Lisa

mako · #29 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 07:09 PM

My you girls can talk lol.

Willow I'm pleased there isn't anything too serious wrong with L. How many solid meals is he eating each day?

Sage is doing ok. The sleep isn't all that great but in saying that it is better than last week so that has to be a good thing. He is eating 2 solid meals some days and others he'll have 1. The paed told us tp introdce the 3rd around 9 months.
He's had a huge week this week. He said his very 1st words. They were Bubba and Boo.... And he's started to crawl backwards lol. He thinks he's sooooo clever and of course we do to

On the topic of eating..... My bestie has a 6 month old who was also 1 month premmie eats 4 jars(yes jars) and a bowl of farex and 3 rusks aswell as 5 or 6 bottles PER day.
She has been feeding him this sort of amount for almost 1 month now. The health nurse she sees doesn't see anything wrong with the amount of food she is giving him. Am I the only one who seriously thinks this child is being over fed?????? I have to say that she is obese and I feel the poor child is headed the same way

Hope you all have a great long weekend. Dh has gone away tonight and Sage and the black lab and I will go there tomorrow and will be back Sunday arv.

Spring Angel · #30 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 07:40 PM

AuntieM: Great to see you again hun. So great to that Reyna is doing well, reflux is a real challenge, Lynn's little boy Ethan has it to, it is fantastic that she is gaining weight and growing well. Pop in more often you hear.

Lisa: I'm here, I've been at work the last few days so haven't had much BB time. Have an awesome time tonight at SATC. I am going when Mum is here and I can't wait.

Willow: Glad to hear that the Dr checked out L and he is ok, here's hoping tonight is better. And WTG L, 9 months is very impressive

As you know I"ve just gone back to work 5 days a fortnight. I was so very worried how on earth I'd cope working after no sleep. Now I might sound crazy but I actually find it easier to go to work when I'm tired then be at home. I am so busy and occupied all day that I don't realise that I'm so tired whereas if I am home I just feel so lethargic. For instance we had a shocking night the other night, I would have got no more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep and had to get up at 5.30am to go to work. I felt horrible when I first awoke but by the time I got to the city I felt so much better. It wasn't until on the train on the way home 12 hours later that it hit me. I hope you find the same thing.

Mako: I love the backwards crawling, it is soooo cute, you wait, he will figure out the forwards motion before you know it. From memory Oliver went from backwards crawling to forwards crawling in about a fortnight. BTW, the bub you mentioned is being fed way to much. IMO solids should be delayed until 6 months and it is only a very gradual introduction from there. I am so surprised that the bub just doesn't straight out refuse the food, poor little tyke, that isn't setting up good habits for later in life.

Well I'm so glad work is over, I had an insane day today but at least it went quickly. Oliver actaully did quite well last night, bed by 7.00pm, awoke at 9.30am (care of our dogs barking) and resettled. Went until 3.30am which was fantastic and then the rubbish began. It took DH until 4.45am to get him back down. We used your technique Willow of letting him try to settle and picking him up everytime he worked up to a cry. The good news is he then slept until 8.30am. I was at work by then but I'm so glad he is sleeping later than 5.30am which he was doing for the last week or so.

We were meant to be taking him to the beach tomorrow but the weather isn't going to be good so instead we are going to a friends house to watch DVD's.

Hi to everyone else.

Lv Spring

Janie · #31 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 08:37 PM

I'm hiding

DS is being a lunatic, so I've palmed him off to DH who is watching the footy, and I've shut myself away in the study. I can hear them both out there cheering the players on

Tell me girls, what is wrong with sleep? Why does my son hate it SO MUCH?! I mean, DH and I love it heaps, can't get enough, so why doesn't our son take after us LOL.

Seriously, nights like tonight I wonder if there's something wrong with him to make him scream so much when it's time to go to bed. But then when he's up, he's fine. And if he wasn't tired, I'd be okay with that, and let him stay up. But he is so tired, and almost goes to sleep, and then wakes up and laughs hysterically while trying to hit me in the face

. It is so not fun it's not funny. I can accept that it's his personality, that he just doesn't have the temperament of a 'good' sleeper. But surely it's not 'normal' to get this worked up?

Oh oh, I'd better dash, I hear mayhem.

Willow · #32 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 08:50 PM

Janie, I'm sooooo feeling your pain right now. We're up to night 4 now of insanity - DS is waking constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY. I was just in with him, waited till he was sound asleep and then stayed to see what happened. He is sound asleep, starts crying in his sleep and then wakes up.

Give me strength, there he goes again...I seriously can't do this for much longer...Dh is out too so I'm on my own (not that he is able to settle him anyway

), thankfully DD went to sleep without much fuss.

Lynn · #33 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 08:58 PM

Well it has been awful here the past 2 days - I have no idea what is up with the little man but yesterday and last night he just screamed all day! I was up and down in the cot all day and night too. Today I couldn't do another day like yesterday so I went out and did the groceries because I know he likes to be out. It kinda worked he was so good out but as soon as we got home he was just screaming again and it is taking forever to get him to sleep. He is down now but has had a couple of screaming fits so I'm hoping that is the end for tonight so I can get some sleep...........there wasn't much of it last night. At least DH can help tonight.

Willow - Ethan is doing the exact same thing. He is screaming and I go in there and his eyes are closed. Sometimes I put the dummy back and that works but most of the time I have to pick him up to settle him and he is still crying with his eyes closed.....eventually he goes back off to sleep - what is with this?!?!?!?

I was coming in here for some suggestions but it sounds like most of us have bubs that aren't sleeping. Here's hoping we all get a good night tonight

Spring Angel · #34 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 09:03 PM

Janie, Willow and Lynn I have no answers, just a big dose of understanding and sympathy.

Lynn · #35 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 09:06 PM

Why not Spring! I was hoping you could give me the magical answer!!! I was even going to call you yesterday but remembered you were at work. I was pulling my hair out trying to work out why E was so unsettled.

Spring Angel · #36 (**permalink**) June 6th, 2008, 09:08 PM

I tell you what if I had the answer I would be filthy rich. They are confusing little people.

Sleep deprivation is a slow form of toture, I really hope E settles soon.

Hey and you can call me at work, it's no worries at all.