Parenting after loss & Miscarriage #3 June '08

[jlk]

Spring - sending you big hugs, you are such a special person!

I'm sorry, I haven't been on here much in the last few days, what has happened has left me not coping well at the moment, still raw in my own grief, this has hit me hard


Mel, If I could take on all your pain right now I would, noone should have to go through this, just know that I care & am thinking of you &your family constantly

[mako]

Mel My heart is breaking for you hun. I'm sending you massive for you and your DH.

Spring You are such an amazing woman and friend. Please take care of YOU too

Michelle Your post is soooo true sweety. I don't think anyone could say it better Give that belly of yours a big from me too....

Willow I too have thanked my lucky stars.... and so has my DH. I have balled and balled when I read what has happened. Just sooooo very sad but everyone here knows that and I don't need to repeat it either.

Janie I really do hope that all is ok with you and ds hun. Remember that we are here if you need us.

JIK I hope you are ok too sweet. If only I could come and lend an ear and a shoulder to you

Big hugs to Lisa, Anna,Deb and all you beautiful women... You are all so special and I too would be lost without you all

[Janie]

Okay, it's almost my bed time (yes I have an 'official' bedtime now ) so I don't have long, but I thought that we all needed this

I'm working tomorrow, so won't be around, but wanted to drop in and say hi tonight so I don't lose touch. I hope you all enjoyed beautiful cuddles with your babies today. And that you sleep sweetly tonight.

Love to all xoxo

[Willow]

Hi girls, just a quick one from me...

Sydney girls - considering that Spring is away to be with Mel atm and might not feel like meeting up next week, I was thinking maybe we could all crash the Sydney meet up at Hornsby on the 17th? It's at MrsMac's house. Spring was already going (not sure if that will change now), I'm probably going, BW is going too. Wouldn't be as far for you to travel either Mako? Here's the thread:

Sydney Meet Up ~ 17 July 08

I don't mind either way, if we go to this one (we can always find a corner! hehe) or if we just meet up on another day, was just a thought...

Sez - are you OK? How did you go at the Drs? Bit worried about you but understand if you don't want to share.

I don't freakin' believe it but DS is getting sick AGAIN!!! Started coughing yesterday, worse today and it's started to disrupt his sleep AGAIN, he is waking himself up coughing. I could kill my SIL, MIL had my kids on Monday and as usual, SIL showed up too with her sick kids and now everyone is sick, if that girl had a brain in her head she'd be dangerous

[LisaL]

Willow - sweety sorry DS is sick again, and you might need to have words with certain IL's about keeping the sick kids away from the others. Also, my naturpath told me that fish oil (you can get some for babies at a health food shop) is really good at helping to keep nasties at bay in kids even as young as L. Im starting alex on them now.

Hope everyone else is well

Lisa xx

[Willow]

Thanks Lisa, might look into that. It's just ridiculous and I feel so bad, DD never got sick like this as a baby. Admittedly it's just been colds and coughs, but it's been weeks since he's been well for longer than a week at a time. I'm hoping if this eventuates to another cold, it will pass quickly, but both of SIL's kids are on ABs already so doubtful! She's just so inconsiderate. Not sure if you remember, but when i was prg with L, I had DD in 'quarantine' for 3 WEEKS because SIL bathed her at MILs house with her son who apparently had measles I can't tell you the number of times DD has been sick after playing with them at MILs house. It really does my head in!!

Anyway, now that I've got that off my chest, I gotta keep things in perspective I guess, it's just a cold after all...

[Janie]

Perspective is good Willow , but it must be annoying. It would do my head in too! FWIW, I'm feeling like a terrible mother ATM, because although DS was not at all sick before 12 months, the day after his birthday he got his first cold and I think he's been sick more days than not since then! Colds, ear infections, throat infections, croup twice, all sorts of nasties I mean we do go out a bit and socialise with other kids, so it's bound to happen, but I still feel bad for the kid. Just telling myself that it's building up his immune system LOL. So you're not alone I hope L doesn't get too sick and that he's over it very soon.

I'm okay thanks hun. It's not that I don't want to share, not at all. It's just that I don't want to share with the whole wide world IYKWIM? I'm never sure who's reading my posts. Mind you who'd want to read our dribble But seriously, sometimes I forget that our thread is there for everyone to read, it feels like it's just us. I wish it was.

Has Spring come to Melb already? It occurred to me today at work that she might need somewhere to stay etc. I wish I'd thought of it earlier and offered. Spring, if you're reading this, and need anything, please just sing out. Michelle has my numbers .

xoxo

[Spring Angel]

Hi ladies:

Willow: I hope L is feeling better soon, it is horrible when they are sick but you are right, in the scheme of things it is a cold. I hope the little fella feels better soon. I'm still thinking of going on the 17th. I can't promise I won't cry the entire time but it will be my last chace to see the other Sydney ladies as I've been to a few of their meet-ups. I can do a catch up someother time with just us. It may require a bit of organisation as I've taken time off work so need to work a few extra days to catch up.

Janie: Thanks for he offer hun, but the group of us going are staying at a place close to Mel's so we can spend every possible moment with her. I leave tomorrow at 6 am and the Goodbye is on Monday at 1.00pm so if everyone could just stop what they are doing at 1.00pm and think of dear little Josh I know that would mean a lot to Mel.

I've spent the last few days doing up Josh's memorial booklet with some of the other girls. It is there, in Black and White, he is gone. I still can't get my head around it.

It's my 5th year wedding anniversary today but DH and I have postponed it to when I'm feeling a little better. I just can't sit there with a lovely meal and a glass of red when I know what Mel and her DH are going through. Turns out he has to go into work anyway so it is best that we just do it another day.

Michelle: Babe, I hope you are on the mend. I'm so sorry I haven't been here for you as much as I should. Once I get back from Melbourne I do my best to help you through.

Sorry for not doing the whole list of personals. I'm off to finish the insert for the booklet. Thank you to everyone for your support.

Deb I couldn't have put it better

Nothing will bother me today, for I am blessed to have my child

[mako]

Just a quick one tonight.
Spring Please know that I'm thinking of you and Mel,her DH and sweet little Joshua.
I will stop doing whatever I'll be doing at 1pm Monday and say a little prayer for all of you
You are a wonderful friend and I'm sure Mel appreciates all that you are doing for them sweety.

Also I know its probably not been a very happy day for you today but I would like to say
happy 5 year wedding anniversary to you and your dh

Please take care and give Mel and her hubby a hug from us and let them know that we are here for them whenever they need us.

[Flowerchild]

Mel, you have been in my prayers so much - constantly my thoughts are with you.

Sending you and your DH love and strength...

for everyone.

[Michelle71]

Just a quick message from Deb. She is currently having internet problems due to the rain and hopes to be back on line soon. She sends her love

I hope you are all well

[LisaL]

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is well.

Ive got tonsilitis!! The little miss seems ok, so Im happy for me to be sick so long as she is ok. Nothing really new to report, other than Im a bit down as my BIL and SIL have been given even more bad news about their fertility issues, so now they are on an intensive program with my NP to see if they can get results. Fingers crossed.

Spring sweety - have been thinking of you and Mel, and like Janie, I feel terrible for not offering for you to stay here with us. I hope Joshua's goodbye was special. Im sure that Mel would have appreciated your support and comfort to her during this time.

As for the rest of you lovely ladies, hope everyone is ok and that the little bubs are growing nicely and being happy little campers.

Hugs to all,
Lisa

PS Michelle - how is Edna?

[mako]

Hi just a quick one again today. I have a really bad cold and Sage has conjunctivitis too. We just don't seem to get a very big break between things here atm

Last night was a shocker. Sage literally screamed all night from 11:30pm until 5am. Nothing would settle him.DH ended up[ sleeping on the lounge We tried feeding,cuddles,walking around the house,panadol,teething tablets and none of these worked. He finally fell asleep on my chest but as soon as I coughed or blew my nose he was awake again I hope tonight is better.

Lisa I hope you are feeling better soon too.

Michelle are you ok?

Hi to everyone.I hope you are all ok.

[Janie]

Hello everyone, hope you are all well and happy. Quite snowed under here ATM, so not around much. Might get more of a chance to post at the start of next week .

Thinking of you all though

Michelle, hope all is well hun

[Michelle71]

Hi girls - I am ok. Just a little paranoid and finding it hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel without thinking it is an oncoming train Bleeding has stopped and I have an OB appointment Thursday afternoon and a GTT in the morning. Oh yay!! I assume edna is doing well. Intermittent movements but sure to slow soon as that anterior placenta takes up more space. Just wishing I could be normal for once and have the excitement of a pregnancy without this awful fear that creeps in. It is probably stemming from the need for some answers from the OB about how this pregnancy will be managed so hopefully tomorrow will find me in a better mood

Janie, Mako and Lisa - than you for asking about me

Lynn and Spring - I hope you are holding up ok after a very emotional week

Willow, Deb, Jo Hope you are well too!!

[Spring Angel]

Hi guys

I'm still here. Just taking some time out to re-group. I am finding it hard to find the strength to support you wonderful women when I am feeling so fragile myself.

Michelle: I think knowledge is power so hopefully once you've spoken with your Ob you will feel a little more at ease. I am so happy to hear the bleeding has stopped.

Mako: I hope Sage had a better night last night. Sometimes we have nights like that with Oliver and nothing will calm him.

Lisa: Tonsilitis? Ouch. Here's to a quick recovery. Thanks for the offer to stay in Melbourne. A group of us stayed in a place near Mel and it actually worked really well because we were only 10mins from her.

Well me, I'm still spinning. Not really sure how to feel, but I can feel that anger and rage on Mel's behalf brewing again. I'm sure you know what I mean. The big move to Brissy is happening. The whole process starts in 2 weeks today so that is giving me something to focus on. I'm just going to miss my Sydney girls so much, you reckon I could fit you all in my suitcase? I can't wait to meet Deb IRL though so I'm sure there will be plenty of trips back and forth to get my Sydney girls fix.

Oh and the other big news, Oliver took his first steps last Saturday. He did it twice and only for a few steps but I've very proud of him because he did it before 10 months. He is also waving now and giving big kisses. Can you believe, 2 months and he is 1. Where is my baby???

lv Spring

[Lynn]

Thanks Michelle - to be honest I am really struggling. I went and saw my counsellor yesterday because the loss of Joshua has brought up so many emotions. I am so angry that Mel has to go through this nightmare again but also feel so sick in the stomach that little Josh was taken by angels when he was so strong and doing so well. I am trying to make sense of all of this but can't.....I want to fix it, but I can't. I am also grieving the loss of Cooper all over again. My mind won't stop spinning and I can't sleep............I just want to take the pain away from Mel and her DH, I feel so useless.

[Janie]

Lynn, Spring, Michelle, big big hugs You have all been in my thoughts alot this last week. This sort of tragedy is so far reaching, and it is totally understandable that it would affect you so terribly. I hope that you can all find the ways you need to get through this awful time, and that you are surrounded by support.

Please do not feel that you need to support any of us ATM, your first concern should be for yourselves, your families and Mel and her family. We're all here for you