Parenting after loss & Miscarriage #3 June '08

[mako]

I wanted to let you know that I'm still here and just lurking a bit..... I'm hoping that Sage and I will make it Thursday but won't know for sure until late tomorrow night or 1st thing Thursday morning. I was feeling great last night but not too good today and Sage goes back to the drs this arv so we'll see what she has to say today.

Good on you Willow for borrowing the GPS. That'll get you to the door step literally

Michelle Thats a shame you can't make it Thursday but honnestly I'm not sure if we'll be there either. Hope you,Oscar and Edna are doing ok

Hi to you all

[Willow]

Bummer, well if you guys aren't going to be there, I might not go either. It's a long way to take the kids just for a few hours and I was really only going to see you guys.

If we don't end up going, I would love to meet up with you Spring and Michelle (and Mako if you can make it) before Spring leaves.

[Spring Angel]

I'm not sure if I'm still going. So much to organise with our move so if most of you aren't going I might not go. I think I'll decide at the last moment. DH isn't feel well at the moment so it might be the case that I have more to organise then I already do.

I'm not sure if there is going to be time to catch up before the big move. The only real day I can do is Monday or Tuesday of next week. Our place is a shambles at the moment with getting everything organised so perhaps we could meet at the shops.

Let me know ladies. I'd love to see you all before I go.

Mako: Hope your little lad is better and that you just continue to get better.

Lynn: How was E today at his needles? I hope you were brave, you know me even thinking about them makes me feel funny.

Deb: I'll be living in Kallangur so on your side of Brissy. I can't wait to meet IRL either, how exciting.

Michelle: How is Edna going? I hope you start to feel movements soon but don't be worried if you don't. I was over 20 weeks with Oliver before I really felt anything.

Hi to everyone else.

Lv Spring

[Michelle71]

I am free Monday and Tuesday next week. My place is on offer if going to the shops is a problem.

Spring - the worst part about the movement is that I have been feeling edna since about 10 weeks (tickling my cervix movements) but they have tapered off recently. That was expected as the placenta is (again) at the front so as it grows (a good thing ) I get less movement until they kick harder. Even then I usually only get movements at the side. Just another funny quirk of mine

Rotten day here this morning. The little person has started the wonderful habit of hitting, scratching and kicking me. Usually it is only me too It is hard to stay to the gentle parenting path when my urge is to smack his hand in response. But how hypocritical of me to hit him when I am telling him not to hit me. The afternoon was better but lack of sleep and being tired from work with pregnancy on top made this morning torture. DH was at work too.

Anyway, let me know what you would all like to do next week. I can go anywhere

[mako]

I'm soooooo sorry Willow and Spring but Sage and I won't be able to go to the meet on Thursday. The poor little fella is so very sick and I couldn't possibly take him anywhere let alone 1.5 hours in the car there and back
The Dr has given him some AB's so hopefully that'll make him feel alot better in the next couple of days.

I feel so awful about this and feel like such a bad mummy atm My boy just doesn't seem to get a break. What am I doing wrong????????

Maybe he'll be better by next Tuesday for a meet up at Michelle's place or the shops if that's the day that works best for all of you. Don't rely soley on me though.....

Michelle It sure is hard not to smack little hands when they hurt us isn't it? Sage has been pinching and slapping and pulling hair oh and BITING my nips every feed and he thinks its funny as he laughs when he does it

[Spring Angel]

Mako: for you and your little man. I wish I could make it better for you both. I can give you plenty of sympathy though so sending plenty of it your way.

Michelle: Wow 10 weeks, are you growing a rugby player in there? I know it is frustrating and worrying when the kicks come and go but it is good that you know the reason why and you also know that before long Edna will be kicking so hard you'll be almost wetting your pants (he he) Monday and Tuesday are fab with me. We can do here, it is just likely to be full of boxes and not the most child safe place. I'm happy to come to yours or else we can go to the shops. I'll keep your lad entertained and you can take mine. The kicking and biting must be a challenge. I'm sure that you are doing a wonderful job with him and by gentle parenting you are raising a calm, self confident happy boy.

Lv Spring

[Willow]

I think I can do Monday or Tuesday too. Don't mind if we meet at the shops or Michelle's.

Mako - I sorta know how you feel, between illness and teething (second top tooth nearly through!) I feel like we haven't had a much of a break either the last few months, but you guys have really copped it. It's not your fault! Our paed told me the other day that most babies will average about 7-8 viral infections each year, most of those being in Winter. It's just one of those things unfortunately. I guess a bonus is that his immune system should be really solid before too long!! I hope this is the last of illness in your house for a long, long time and that Sage makes a speedy recovery.

[LisaL]

Hi ladies,

Mako sending you big hugs sweets, you are a wonderful mummy and doing a great job and Sage loves you for it. There is no way to fight off the winter nasties no matter how much of a super mum you are!

Hope everyone else is doing well. Im really struggling with Miss A at the moment, she is getting to be very cheeky. She has now started to bite. the other day she was leaning into my mum, and we thought she was going to give her a kiss or cuddle, well......she went in for the big chomp and bit mum so hard on the cheek there is now a bruise on her face. And if you try to discipline her (in a stern voice) she goes to grab my hand and bite it! HELLLLLP!!!!!

Big hugs to all,
Lisa

PS - Anyone heard from Anna, Jayne, Jo??????

[Janie]

Lisa, DS goes through violent phases like that too. It's so hard when they're doing it, I know. It might not be everyone's cup of tea, but if DS is being particularly violent, and he won't stop when I say no, then I just put him down where we're standing and walk away. Of course, he can follow me, but that's not the point, he seems to understand that he's made me cross, and settles down with the nasty stuff. Saying no nearly always has zero effect on him, in fact he thinks it's funny. But if I walk away he knows that I'm not happy. I don't leave him there to cry or anything, I usually go back and pick him up give him a cuddle, and explain why I don't like him hitting/biting/kicking, whatever it is. It seems to have worked okay, because he is fairly non-violent ATM.

Have you read Toddler Tactics by Pinky McKay? I'm finding it a very helpful book, I've got so many ideas from it. I recommend getting your hands on a copy

Mako, big hugs, you're not doing anything wrong, kiddies will get sick. I know how you feel though, I was feeling the same way a couple of weeks ago! Hang in there hun, it will get better soon

Hi everyone else, gotta dash!

[jlk]

Hi all, how is everyone going?

I'm sorry I haven't been in more, just struggeling at the moment, DH has told me we should try for another baby , I just don't know how i feel about it.

Hope everyone is well.

Spring - hows the packing going?
Lynn - How did your little man go with his needles?

[LisaL]

Thanks Janie, I may need to get my hands on it. Will try to get a copy over the weekend. She thinks 'no' is funny too

Jo sweety, take your time and work through your feelings about ttc again. The best thing you can do is be open and honest with your DH so he understands your feelings and doesnt put anny pressure (even if its unintentional) on you for another bub until your ready emotionally. Sending you lots of hugs sweety.

Hello to everyone else..

Lisa

[BekZ]

Hi Ladies,

I have been lurking a little bit but mainly I have been super busy trying to get my new house organised. Plus i have had a hard time with both Loren and Sara not sleeping and me being very hormonal.

Firstly - Spring hugs to you and your friend Mel.

Mako - You are and every lady in here are wonderful mummies. I some times feel that I don't make the grade as a good mum when I read everyones elses posts and how they are dealing with situations etc.

Jo - I am sorry that you are struggling atm, ditto to Lisa's comments re ttc.

Lisa - Sorry I can't help with the bitting. Sara did this a few times and I just told her NO very firmly and she did not do it again. I think it was holding her at the time and she went for my collar bone, so I put her down and then got down to her level and told her NO..don't hurt mummy.

Hugs to everyone

BTW - Loren is pulling herserlf up on everything..pretty clever for 7 months!!!

Best go.

[Michelle71]

Lisa - I am having the same problems with Oscar (not biting so often but the hitting etc) and I do what Janie does (surprise, suprise ) I put him on the floor and walk away which usually has the desired effect.

Mako - you are doing a great job and Sage is not sick because of you. Some little people just do I hope it gets better soon though.

Well, we know what was up the nose of my little man yesterday with his foul mood - croup Poor little chook had a hoarse voice last night and the barking cough in bed. We are predicting tonight will be worse - he has already had stridor (noisy breathing) when he was upset earlier. Dosed up on dexamethasone and we are set for a rocky night.

Big hello to everyone. Trying to get some rest while I can.

Sydney girls - let me know about the catch up but Tuesday is looking good for everyone so far

[Flowerchild]

to Mako and Michelle - your poor boys sound like they are feeling very ordinary.

If you are around Michelle - pop into the pregnancy thread and maybe you could light a candle for Jo..

It's time for a new thread to chat in my lovelies... You will find it HERE