Pregnancy after Late Loss ~ Recurrent Miscarriage ~ Stillbirth - August 2008

[Rozzie27]

Laney,

sorry to hear you're down today, EDDs are so hard, they all seem to be hitting within a month as well! Big

[Katiegirl]

Laney - big hugs for Shelby's EDD. It is a tough day and I am so sorry that people around you have not remembered. Take care of yourself now that you aren't taking the pills, as I am sure it will be a rocky road in the coming weeks as you get used to not having them to help boost you. Good luck with commencing TTC - you know we are all hoping that this will be a short and very happy journey for you.

BW - happy to hear that received some answers from your Ob. Take care of yourself as you must be exhausted with low iron and working full time. Don't ever worry about being emotional etc here, we all specialise in it.

Trying to clean before we have DH's brother arrive tomorrow - this place is a pigsty. I don't seem to be nesting yet, but am very good at sitting on the couch telling DH how much my back hurts! Also what do Braxton Hicks feel like - tonight I have had some pain in my stomach but it is only momentary and goes away - kind of like a sharp short cramp.

[chell]

Im sorry no one remembered. I was compelled to reply because it is the same with me. No one remembers the the dates of the babies i lost. my mother in law sent me an sms once on the right date but the wrong month. in some ways I found this worse than her not remembering at all.

Big hugs for you

[~StarBright~]

Drum Roll Please......

"We welcome with so much love our baby girl,
Remy Lee, 9lb 30z.
All well- quick natural labour. So happy.
Watched over by a special angel :-) "

And i was soooo sure Lee's bundle was blue!! lol By natural i am assuming she means no drugs- as i was pretty sure she was being induced.. or maybe natural labour kicked in first!! Leo's have a habit of doing that

I am sure she will fill us all in in a few days or so!!

Congratulations Lee and DH welcome to the world Remy Lee!!!

[Tildy]

Oh, wonderful! Welcome, Remy Lee! Congratulations, Lee!

[Anthonysmom]

Congrats Lee and the wonderful arrival of Remy Lee!! I'm with you SB, I was sure it was a boy

Barbara

[butterfly_warrior]

Laney... I'm sorry you have to deal with that on top of everything else.

Lee... a big, big congratulations to you and welcome to the world Remy!

BW

[tommysmum]

Lee- Congratulations on the safe arrival of your pink bundle - Remy Lee. Wonderful news.

Jo - thinking of you on Storms due date. Hope you are ok and thinking of your angels.

Mel - Thinking of you all the time and i know things are really tough and will be for a long time. Nicholas and Joshua are special boys and you are a special mum. XX

Wishing everyone else good health and happiness.

[Katiegirl]

Congratulations Lee and a big welcome to Remy Lee. Well done and 9lb 3oz! Wow. Very happy news and a lovely way to start a Friday.

[bailey99]

Lee and family Congratulations on th arrival of little Remy
Great news!

[Michelle71]

Lee - congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl.

I did a post and lost it. BBL.

Hello everyone and welcome to the new members

[Spring Angel]

Lee: Whoo Hoo I am overjoyed to hear of the birth of your little girl Remy Lee Enjoy this very special time as you get to know eachother.

love Spring

[Spring Angel]

Laney EDD's are tough. Thinking of you hun.

[bailey99]

Hi Ladies,
I hope you are all well. I just wanted to add my support to Mel. I too am one who feels I was not there enough for Mel, and my only excuse is that I just didn't know what to do or say. Joshua's passing hit me so hard and I am still shocked and so sad. I know Mel, and I know what she said in her post was not meant to be taken the way it was. She is simply pointing out that we are all meant to be in this together, supporting eachother through the good AND the bad. I don't think there are any of us here that have not complained or vented about how family and friends don't acknowledge and support when we need it the most, so I believe we should know that saying anything even just an 'I dont know what to say' is better than saying nothing. I think that was all Mel wanted to say.
I also just wanted to say how sad I am that some of the posts her have been accused of being 'attacking' or 'flaming' I have not read anything that seemed to be either of those things. With Mels comment to BW about the gender issue, I took it as supportive not as an attack. I too had a gender preference after losing a daughter I desperately wanted another girl and the girls here all said similar things to me about how a living healthy baby at the end is the most important thing. They were not dismissing my issue, they were supporting me and helping me keep my focus. I hope that is the way BW saw it too, because I know that is how it was meant.
Lastly, I just want to say that I hope all of you new ladies can get what I got from this thread and that is mutual support to get through the toughest of journeys. The girls I met here are now my dearest of friends and I know I could not have gotten through the last 22 months without them (you know who you are ) Especially to Mel. You are amazing. Throughout this journey you have had so many hurdles and yet you have always been there supporting everyone through everything - and you do it with a smile on your face.
Take care of yourselves and your babies, it is a hard road to walk with no guarentee of a happy ending, but we can all get through whatever happens with support and understanding.

[bailey99]

Laney. EDD's are hard. Take care.

[jo76]

hi everyone,
first -

I was really nervous about what i would find in here today. This place is my backbone and where this forum went yesterday left me a little shattered to be honest. Pleassssse lets all of us hold tight to each other and acknowledge we will have differences always (we're human) but to be conscious that we each stay at our supportive greatness too! We are all flying high on emtoions, good or bad but we have always maintained some sort of positivity, which we continue to need on a daily basis, regardless of where we are at!

flowerchild - i was really upset to see that you had to leave this forum, even if it was for a short time out. please know that what you do in here IS so invaluable, you have such an amazing calmness about you and such a unbelieveable wealth of knowledge for us all to learn from. (and cyber LEAN ON!) So i am sending YOU hugs and love today, i sincerely hope you are feeling better again!
mel - i have pm'd you!
lee - stalking too, the only reason i am back in here today!
bw - i wanted to post to you yesterday and then did'nt as i felt ME offering you advice in light of my recent loss may not be productive for you at the moment. But you have been on my mind overnight and so i am going to anyway. Re: your 2 cord vessels, i was the one where the intial screwup was made and that on the 2nd ultrasound by someone more specialised there was 3 found. But everyone wrote about success stories with only 2 in my horrible 2 day wait! But it all seems to have worked out which i am happy to hear! You have not upset anyone in here, and i know with my reply re: gender issue, that i wrote purely to give you some light at the end of the tunnel in your feelings so i hope you were'nt feeling judged. I am sending you hugs too as i feel that that you need some major ones and i wish i could give you some in person! Take care of yourelf as much as you can and i hope these iron levels figure themselves out soon so you feel better physically and emotionally!
laney - i am so sorry for the way your EDD turned out! It sucks when no one acknowledges the date, i am dreading this christmas again because madisons date was dec 9 and instead of holding a newborn bubs in my arms i'll have her loss hanging over me. we are planning at the moment not to spend christmas day with dhs side as i know they will be as unsupportive as they were last years chrissy when i was upset about jack. I am sure your precious angel feels the love you still carry! Don't see crying as a bad thing (i know -we feel crap when we do it) it is an important part of your healing.
take care everyone
x jo

[angelicdragon]

Laney for Shelbys due date and nobody remembering. Family seem to be the worst for anything like that.

BW it's good to hear the relief in your words. Now keep up the iron, eat lots of red meat and silverbeet and nuts and hopefully you'll regain that energy.

Deb it takes a very special person to be a moderator and you have the gentle touch needed. I always admire yuor words. I know on my own forum there are times I struggle finding the right words, my forum started out with TTC after Stillbirth and grew.

Lee congratulations on the safe birth of Remy Lee.
I was just wondering what time she arrived coz we got a msg from my SIL at the QAH, she had her little boy at 5:15am today, 7lb2.

So who is next to deliver?

Ellie, Rozzie and tildy how are you?

Chell welcome to our 'home on the net'. I don't know much about the blood issues you have but others may be of some help. I do know that quite a few blood issues are fixed by the use of clexane injection.

Big hi to everyone else I have missed, not intentional but I need to find my bucket an dlie down
hugs
Jude

[butterfly_warrior]

I know I've really been struggling to get the right words out at times, but I do want to reassure people that I never felt judged by anyone here about how I was feeling. I took everything in the spirit that it was intended - that no matter how I feel now, that once my baby arrives it's not going to matter one little bit what the gender is, the important thing is that they are healthy. But as I said I often freak out over the little things because the big things are too scary to deal with.

Jo, I honestly didn't remember your experience with the single artery cord, but it is good to have the reminders that there were good news stories then.

I have to run now, but I do want to reassure people that I did not feel attacked or judged and I really am feeling better about everything now.

BW