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[Strawberry_87]

Hi...

Well i'm new to this but needed people to talk to that would actually know what i was going through You talk to family and friends and all i hear is pregnancy first go and don't worry you'll get there!! It's not there fault they just don't understand...

Now that i have complained a bit i guess i should say exactly whats been happening: Hubby and I haven't been married very long but new that we both wanted kids....straight away!! So we have been trying for 5 months now and....nothing. Clearly the want to have a child is not always the item needed in making one

Every month is an emotional roller coaster of staying positive then reality setting in that it hasn't happened again!!! So then come the tears and then for me...anger! Why am i finding it so hard to get pregnant when everyone i talk to it seems to happen straight away

Well i start ovulating this weekend so we'll be giving it another crack...but again who knows what the outcome will be.....

Thanks for reading....Any comments or reassuring words welcome

xx

[tk1999]

I can empathise with you... my TTC journey started in August but I have not as yet had AF since having an Implanon removed so I get frustrated because I know that I probably won't fall just yet anyway! I have also been diagnosed with PCOS and have just started Metformin for that... I just so desperately want to see AF so I know everything is working and the real TTC journey can start! I feel the same... the comments of - "relax and it will happen" are starting to get me down... especially as I only told my best friend and I thought she would be the rock I could lean on.

I hope your TTC journey is a short one. Sorry I just realised, I probably haven't been much help but maybe it helps to know there are others who feel the same as you... well hopefully it does lol

[Strawberry_87]

No you did help....it's good to know that other people are feeling the same way that i am!! Sometimes it's good just to "vent" to people that actually understand

People that find it easy to get pg or aren't trying for kids try reassuring words but unless you are going through the trying to get pg stage or have before it's hard for them to fully understand what an emotional time it is....

All i can say is goodluck trying to pg i will be watching out for a pg announcement in the near future!!

xx

[FioNa25]

Hi There,
I know exactly how u feel, I'm in the same boat we have been TTC for almost 12months now. I wished it happened straight away but unfortunatley that's not the case. You don't need everyone on ur case about it! I wish u all the very best of luck TTC & I hope it happens shortley for u.
If u ever need someone to chat to I'll be here

[Chow]

I totally understand too, we have been trying since May and nothing. People around me are falling all the time and as much as I want to be happy for them I get a little jelouse which then makes me feel totally guilty! What a roller coster! I never thought it would be like this!
Thinking you you and hope that this will be the special month!

[Strawberry_87]

I know it's so hard when all you want more than anything else in the world is to get that and all you seem to get is you feel like your doing everything right and still nothing. Then everybody around you seems to be falling pg at the drop of a hat...as much as you try to be happy for them theres that bit inside that just wants to scream and shout it's not fair!!!!!! So when you talk to someone for a bit of comfort all you get is don't panick...it will happen. It won't happen over night but it will happen and you think to yourself well it happened for them straight away or i don't think they had any problems getting pg and you get sad I don't know about anyone else but i feel broken....I'm a woman it's my job to be able to have kids if thats what i want and i can't....whats wrong with me??

Well i started ovulating on the 12th...so i guess we will just wait and see Hopefully i will be posting in the pregnancy announcements in a couple of weeks.

Thanks for all of the support - good luck in your ttc journey!!

xxx

[SassyStacey]

We are not trying yet, even though I really want to (DH has to adjust to the idea of a child a little longer), and everyone I know is pregnant. You are lucky that you DH is supportive. All I want is a child, and I also get really frustrated when others seem to fall pregnant (planned or unplanned) and I am the one that has to wait, save the money, finish uni etc, all the sensible things. I get told, oh, only a year to go, time will fly! Well, not for me, when you wake up every day and think about it!

So you arent alone with the feelings of wanting a child, and I really hope that its not too long for you. I dont have any good advice to help you fall pregnant, except that I am just trying to enjoy being with my DH and spening quality time together, and trying to get things organised as I can before we TTC. I am also doing alot of research, and love hearing from other mums what raising a child is like.

Hope to see you around.

[Canadiantams79]

You have no idea how reading your post has helped me. I feel so much better that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been 5 months trying for me too. Then i feel guilty as I know people out there try even longer and even have to do ivf. so thanks for sharring your thoughts. I really needed to hear that I am not the only one.

*Hugs*

Tams.

PS the last 6 people i have hugged in the last two months have gotten preggers. so good luck!

[Strawberry_87]

Hi Girls!!

I'm glad that everyone is finding this venting thread so much use...cos as i have said and could say a hundred times!! Nobody fully understands unless they are going through what we are or have already...

Stacey - I'm sure your Man will come around. I know it's hard when people say your young you have your whole life ahead of you dont worry about babies right now just enjoy being young and married life....but when you want a baby more than anything those words make you wanna scream Clearly hubby has an order in which he wants things done uni, house etc but you have to remember he's a man and his maternal instincts will never be as high as yours!! My hubby did take a little convincing but i think he regrets not starting sooner as now we are having all these problems getting pg Stay strong

Tam - You are not alone....we are all here for you to talk to when you feel you need to. Glad that us talking about our issues has made you feel better and not so alone I sure hope your hugs have the luck on me that they have had on other women Good luck TTC and stay in touch!!

xxx

[Chow]

Its so nice to hear people feel the same way!Ohhhhh I O on the 11th so maybe we will both get our wish!
My hubby took a while before he was ready, but now he is more "clucky" then me its very cute
I'm so happy to be able to vent without people saying it will happen just relax and dont think about it! How can you not think about it??
Anyway thanks all for being lovely!!!

Sending you lots of....

[Canadiantams79]

Thanks heaps everyone!

And strawberry thanks darlin. af has not made an apperance today so here is hoping.
make a mistake and put on my facebook that i have crossed my fingers and now have 9 people asking are you p? They had no clue we were trying. my fault. should of thought.. before typing it but figuired that it could be anything and the few that do know will know what I am talking about! Wrong.

Ha chow. If i hear "relax it will happen" one more time.. I think i may just flip out... LOL. and "NO:i do not want to hear your story about concieving straight away... AGAIN!

I just want to know!!!! Grrrrrr. anyways will let you know. although sure af will be making apperance tomorrow.. as It prob goes one day over just to make me agro...

Lol. now i feel a little bit better!!

[Strawberry_87]

Oh....I hope it's good news for you Tam!!!!!

You will have to let us no if no AF tomorrow I o'lated on the 12th of this month and i'm hoping AF never arrives and i can get the news i have been dreaming about for sooooooooo long now

You never know this may be the month for all of us.

Take it easy girls and good luck TTC!!!

xxxx

[tk1999]

Hi everyone,
Just thought I should give a quick update... AF finally showed up (14 Oct) after having the Implanon out... it took her 10 weeks and there was medical intervention in the form on Metformin. So at least I know that things might start to happen though I am told that it might take a few cycles to actually ovulate but I am one step closer that I was before her arrival!
The "wait it will happen" comments have slowed a bit but there are so many people around me who are pregnant and each of them just happened so it is getting me down a little.
Baby dust to you all and here is to a short TTC journey!

[Chow]

Tam I hope AF doesnt show up! I have a really good feeling that everything will be grat this month! I became a fan of BellyBelly on facebook.... STUPID Didnt even think everyone would see that, I have been getting lots of emails asking if I P too...
Keep us posted!

[Strawberry_87]

Well girls....

I have just started Boot Camp - Similar to a Torture Camp i would say hehehe!! This is the last thing i can think of that would possibly be holding me back in my trying to get pg So i figure if i can loose some weight and get healthy it may happen...

I have been to naturopath and done a million tablets a day and nothing. So healthy eating and lots and lots of excerise is my next step.

Of course i am due for AF on the 28th of this month if i do get a then i will hold off on the exercise as you can't do Boot Camp whilst pg but would do something a bit less rigorous...

for everyone TTC!!!

Take Care xxxx

[becky27]

Hi all,

Strawberry good thread you started.. I know how you all feel although I have only been properly trying for 2 cycles I went off the pill in June and it took my old friend 10 weeks to show up. Its almost like I cant talk to anyone except hubby cos they all say 'oh dont worry it will happen in good time, just relax and enjoy married life' hmf! easy to say! I go through phases where I relax about it and then, usually 6 days into the TTW I freak out and panic! and think OMG this has to happen NOW!! whats with this waiting rubbish? All I can say is come on baby but good luck to you all i hope you get your BFP's soon

[tk1999]

I hear ya Becky, I have only told my best friend that we are TTC but she has started with the "wait it will happen" comments and so I really feel like I can only talk to DP - though he said yesterday that maybe if we think less about it, it will just happen and I said "don't you start on me"... argh - getting it from all angles!! I explained to DP that I needed someone I could be completely honest with and share my thoughts and feelings whether it be scared or happy feelings... he said he understood more after that!

Fingers crossed for BFPs... I never knew the art of making babies could be such a science!

[SassyStacey]

Hey everyone,

Strawberry87 I am hoping he will get uesd to the idea, our plan is to start TTC in a year, so hopefully that will give us enough time to prepare! Boot Camp hey? Thats full on exercise! Hopefully it wont affect your TTC! Getting fit is a good thing!
Good Luck CanadianTams! I hope everything goes really well for you!
Hi Becky, dont worry, you are not alone with those comments you are recieving, I guess you just have to brush them off! No one really understands the feeling of wanting a baby unless you are in the same position, its so strong for me, and when I am not thinking about uni or work, thats what I am thinking about!
Tk1999 Glad you have got AF out of the way, and hope you are UTD really soon!
Hey Chow, so your DH took a while to get used to the idea? Did you do anything to help him along?

Tried to rework to budget to see if we can start trying any sooner, but it doesnt look like it. <sigh>. I hate this waiting! My friend had an episode on the weekend (she is also as clucky as me), it was triggered by one of her friends boyfriends sadly passing away. She started pondering the meaning of life, and thought that anything could happen, so why wait for something you badly want now?

So did you all plan to start TTC carefully or was the desire so strong you couldnt fight it? How much planning did you all do? And you are right tk1999, there does seem to be an art to making babies, so how much planning can you really do?