Vbac that did go wrong!

[sunshine_sieben]

NaeNae, I wish you all the best with whichever decision you make. It is great to hear that more and more women are making an informed decision.
And I am so sad to hear about the loss of your little Nikkita. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Just a quick note: the mods didn't disallow Nikki's story. If anything they are very supportive of her sharing her story. It is other poster's that made unsupportive comments that were called into line.

Saša

[nikkialma]

Hi Nae, I will just keep this brief so that I can find out how to PM you not quite sure so I have added you as a contact and friend. Hope this is OK, you must have been through so much I would love to keep in contact. let me know and thanks for your support.
Contact me!!
Nikki

[hoobley]

Having missed all of the recent posts (been AWOL a few days) i just read all this now (minus the deleted posts).

Nikki i just wanted to highlight once again how important it is that you posted your story and how grateful i am for your courage.

VBAC or now is a decision more and more women will face, with the c-section rate as high as it is. For so many women i know the major issue in deciding what to do is one of trust. So often a first birth went drastically wrong, and often, sadly, this was due to intervention a woman did not have enough information on to refuse. Thus they come towards their second birth with no faith, no faith in their bodies, no faith in their babies, no faith in their Obs.

When a woman finds a site like Bellybelly she is looking for the truth. You have given your truth with such sanity, such openness. Your experiences speak to us of the very real risks if a VBAC results in rupture (just as many other threads on BB talk of the very real risks of c sections). For Bellybelly to remain an effective tool for women searching for answers the truth must be available to them. We need balance in all aspects of our decision-making process.

You have told us the truth. In a place like this women can trust WOMEN to help them choose their path. The empowerment that brings, WHATEVER mode of birth is chosen for the next baby, is worth so much. For every woman who gets all the evidence, and makes a TRULY empowered choice, you are talking about another well-bonded mother-and-baby pair, another PND-free mummy, another happy family entering a new phase of parenting with joy and strength instead of fear and regret.

The loss of your daughter was catastrophic, horrendous, but what you have contributed to the Truth here, in telling her story, is priceless.

Thankyou.

[Schmickers]

NaeNae, it wasn't the opening poster's story that we were forced to moderate - the entire Mod team respects Nikkialma for sharing her very sad story, and she has our full support in doing so.

Unfortunately, a number of posters began to engage in a CS versus VBAC debate that became quite heated, and as a result, we were forced to moderate that portion of this thread. However, at no time have we edited or altered Nikkialma's posts or asked her to do the same.

Nikkialma's story is an important one, and it deserves to be heard. However, out of respect for her story, this thread should remain on topic. So let me add my support to Dachlostar. Any more debate regarding CS versus VBAC will be separated out into a new thread so that the discussion can continue separate from posts of support for Nikkialma.

[NaeNae]

He has given me some websites to do some research into successful VBAC's and I think that thats wonderful however I feel that perhaps your story should also go onto these websites as it emphasizes that things CAN and DO go wrong.
..................... I am blabbing here, but if you are interested (please do not feel pressured) PM me and I will give you the website.

If the moderators choose not to allow your story that is there decision but people need to be aware.


Ok I feel to clarify a few things before anymore responses come in more or less stating that BB didn't /wouldn't post Nikki's story. What I wrote is above in red.
I was actually referring to different websites that MY OB had given to me to do research and NOT BB. I simply didn't feel it was appropriate to name these websites in here out of respect for the BB forum.

My deepest appologies to anyone who I caused confusion too.



Nae x x x

[Schmickers]

That's fine, NaeNae. Thank you for clarifying.

[stickybaby]

I just wanted to thank you too! It is vital to hear about the small percentage of woman that it has happened to. to you!
I have been warned that this time it would have to be a c/sec again after a trial of scar with the 2nd bub, but I have been seriously considering pushing for the VBA2C. I think I will just push for a 4th c/sec instead!

[nikkialma]

Hi, thanks for your reply I hope my story has helped you with what you decide to do. From your name thing (don't know what they call it) it looks like you have had a rough time and I dearly hope things go well. It is so hard to make these choices as for some things go perfectly well, I know a lady who after 2 c/sections had her 3rd at home and really very quickly, no problems at all. Then you take me I have had nothing but problems when it comes to delivery. If you have any questions do not hesitate to ask.
Even now after 3 1/2 years I miss my daughter so much, it is very hard sometimes wishing I had listened to my instinct and not the hospital!!!
Anyway we do have to wonderful boys whom I love so so much.
Thanks Nikki

[Georgiavbac]

Thanks so much for sharing your story nicki. Im 35 weeks and considering a vbac and most sites and commentary only tell you the positive outcomes, not many women are brave enough to talk about the disasters associated with vbac. So I sincerely thank you for doing so.