Two godmothers - thoughts?

[Cally]

We are planning on having DD christened in a month. The big question is who to ask as godparents.

My sister (sis 2) has asked DH and I to be godparents to her DD. It would be easy to ask her back, but am worried that other sister (sis 3) would be a bit put out. We have taken it in turns to me maid/matron of honour at each other's wedding so it makes sense to continue that tradition.

If we do ask sis 3 to be godmother who do we have as another godparent? She has a long term boyfriend (living together) but I am not really willing to ask him to be godfather as they aren't yet engaged so there isn't any really long term commitment. I would be willing to ask DH's sis to be another godmother but he thinks it would be a bit weird to have 2 godmothers, but no godfathers.

Any suggestions? Has anyone had 2 godmothers?

[Tanstar]

I don't see why not hun.... I don't know a huge amount it all but I think it would make more sense to have 2 beautiful people in her life who can help role model and mentor her than someone who is around now but may not be later. Up to you and your DH but I don't see any issue unless it is that she won't have a "male" figure as a godfather. Having said that, we don't have godparents in my family and there are always people who step up as needed as kids get older. Good luck making your decision!

[Arimeh]

We don't have "godparents" as such since we aren't religious, but we have "guardian parents".. and we have four for DS - two men and two women...

We based our decision on the people that we felt would help "shape" our child into the kind of person that we would like him to grow up to be - all four of them have their own merits and that is why we chose 4.

Its a struggle this time round for DD - cos family might be put out if we don't choose family this time round and go for friends instead again!!! lol

Good luck - I don't it matters how many you have, just as long as the people are who you want your child to be like influenced by

[melham74]

we have 2 godmothers and @ godfathers for all of our kids, 1 set on my side and 1 set on DH side except for the last we have my best freind and her hubby and my BIL (dh side) he is single and my Best freinds daughter.

[Rach75]

jacks godparents recently had the son christened he had 3 uncles as his godfathers it was lovley to see them all stand up to take on a different role in hi slife besides uncle

[Danielle_M]

I think it's fine to have 2 Godmothers & you could have 2 Godfathers aswell if you found the right ones. I don't think there are any "rights or wrongs" when it comes to choosing Godparents. For our DD it was a very easy choice for us, we chose 2 of our friends from church who are married & close friends of ours (also have the same beliefs as us which is a plus). We didnt choose any family even though my older sister chose me as a Godmother to one of her sons. (She had my twin sister & I plus her DH's little brother... so 2 Godmothers & 1 Godfather for that son).

I think you'll always have family feeling a little "ripped off" so to speak if they're not chosen over friends. I think the main thing is for the Godparents to be people you are 100% happy with & they are everything you want in a Godparent.

I could easily let my older sister be Godmother to my DS as a payback so to speak from her making me Godmother but we want to choose people who like us are practising Catholics, my sister isn't. She is Catholic but not practising & it's our right to choose.

Don't feel bad about not choosing family over friends if they dont match your criteria. They'll get over it! it's hard enough choosing people without having to worry about offending those who will miss out.

Good luck! (We'll need to start seriously considering Godparents again soon too!!!)

[HPsMum]

You can have just godmothers if that is what you want. Harrison has 2 godmothers and 2 godfathers. My sister & her husband, My brother & his wife. I told my other sister she can be godmother to the next bub, she has a long term boyfriend but I also would not be willing to have him as godfather, truthfully I would not want him to be role model to my child. Best of luck choosing.

[snugglybean]

I know it's a bit late, but I have 2 godmothers! And 1 godfather. One of my godmothers met my mum while travelling in Europe, and mum made some comment about her making a great godmother, and she held Mum to it when I was born, even flying over from NZ for my christening! I have hardly seen her since, but in the interests of tradition I have promised a NZer that I met in Europe that she can be godmother of my firstborn.
My other godmother, who is a Sydney-based raging wild party animal, had a lot more influence on my life. I talked to her about girls stuff a lot more than I did to my mum.
So I say go for it, then the bubba can have the choice!

[aussienic]

I didn't have a Godmother for my last 2 sons.. Instead we had 2 godfathers..

[Nurse Dan]

I don't see a problem with two god mothers. Olivia has two godmothers and a godfather. If I was in your place I wouldn't ask your sis boyfriend either because of the exact reason you mentioned of them not being engaged or any long term commitment. It is so difficult, isn't it. Just trust your judgement and go with who you think is the best option for your daughter.

[dachlostar]

Our family tradition is to have two godparents of the same gender and one of the opposite gender. It works for us.

[Carley]

Our son has two god father's and no god mothers. Our church were fine with it and we felt after making bad choices first time round (our poor DD got hopeless god parents chosen more because we were close than because we felt they would do the job well). This time we decided to base our decision on who we felt would be best for our child and for us it was two of our male friends. They are both married and whilst I would have liked one of the wives to be a godparent (she is not catholic and so not an option) nobody raised an eyebrow at our choice. I figure there are a lot of women in my friends and family to have a positive influence or offer guidance anyway so I didn't see it as a problem.
Good Luck

HTH

[jennjorja]

We are having a naming day for our DD in November and we have chose my youngest bro, and 3 very close friends to be "mentors/guardians" (2 male and 2 female). I grew up having a simliar mix of godparents. I think this is a great idea as it gives the little one a greater mix and views and if they don't feel comfortable to talk to one they can choose another one.

[Sarah_H]

The usual tradition is for the child to have two godparents of the same sex & one godparent of the opposite sex. That said, Zander has one of each only because we didn't have another man at the time that we'd want as a godparent. Juliette has two godmothers & a godfather (or will officially have them in 2.5 weeks!).

[alittlegrubi]

We had 2 of each. 2 godmothers and 2 godfathers for DD, but only one for DS.
There is no reason why you need to have the godfather related to the godmother.
Another tradition that you could follow is that the Best Man and Bridesmaid should be the god parents. So then your ideal godfather is your DHs Best Man with the two sisters as godmothers.

[Shoegal]

We are having 2 godmothers for DS's christening in January, both of our sisters.

[Bun]

DD has two godmothers and no godfathers and it's just fine!