Would you just QUIT with a baby on the way?

[PinkPalace]

I know it sounds irresponsible but would you be ok with your partner (DH) to QUIT his job knowing you have a baby on the way?

He is so very unhappy atm and i know he will be fine getting another job, would you just do it without another job to go to though?

[bon]

No, but only because DH and I have been burned before when he quit a job because he was certain of getting this other job, but then of course that didn't happen. We struggled financially for a while and DH had to apply for the dole which hurt his pride a bit. So now the rule is he doesn't leave a job until he has another one in the bag, which means paperwork done and a starting date. He is a construction worker, hence tends to change jobs fairly regularly.

[bjrose]

My DH quit a full time job at a garbage/recycling depo to go shearing.
while I was pg with DS. He had 2 weeks off while waiting.
He went from regular full time work to casual work that relys on the weather! I wasn't pleased about it, but he's doing what he wants.
As long as your DH isn't planning on doing nothing for the next few months you should be ok.

[maz]

If he is can easily get another job Why doesnt he start looking for a new job while he is at the old one?

It would save alot of stress and worry on your end and he'd feel better knowing that he has other employment.

[PinkPalace]

NO he is a working man! lol would go stir crazy not working.

We moved to brisbane for this job and basically they are tieing his hands and not letting him do what they hired him to do. He will get a job very easily as he is good at what he does and we arent afraid to travel. I just hate that he has been so unhappy since we moved here for the position

MAz - he has been looking already but not applied as such, i guess it is a matter of just doing it all over again.

[~amysarah~]

If I knew he would be able to get another job in a reasonable timeframe - then yes I would.

I would much rather live with a happy, temporarily unemployed husband than a miserable, cranky employed one!!

[squidipa]

look it only money i say to hubbie all the time i would not expect you to do anything i dont expect from my self. We were in this position a few weeks ago too. Its only money and hubbies happiness comes first. We had some time he felt so was looking while still working for new job. i would quit if money is no issue especially knowing he cam get new job easily

[PinkPalace]

Well in the area of $$ - it would be just living on our savings (mortgage) until he started again.
Are you doing ok now Squipida?

Amysarah - he isnt grumpy with me

Perhaps when i go into labour= he takes his leave and then hands in his resignation. At least then he will be at home to help me while looking for a job rather than having to take leave in a new job???

[bjrose]

Thats a good idea. & he doesn't have a set time frame then either.
I know when I had DS I was terrified of DH going back to work.
I wanted him to be home as long as possible, his boss rang with in the week.
I did survive, but I was so scared of dealing with 3 kids on my own.

[squidipa]

Originally Posted by PinkPalace

Well in the area of $$ - it would be just living on our savings (mortgage) until he started again.
Are you doing ok now Squipida?

yeah hubbie still with same job but takes time off for interviews and what not. i think he is realizing split shifts aint to bad he gets time with baby. Also his job is more flexible than other ones and he has realised this.

A job Closer to home would be better and he is still looking Hubbie is seeing the small benefits in his current job and thats made him happier

[PinkPalace]

DH went back to work the next day after the evening DD was born and we were living remote with no family and i just coped.

I think just like BJ said - it would be nice for him to have some time off with #2 to help.

[squidipa]

pink palace....hubbie took 1 week off and spent his whole day with me in hospital and when home to help with kids

[PinkPalace]

oh thats sweet. I got visits on his lunch break !lol

[maz]

maybe you could apply for jobs for him IFYKWIM...you know what kind of job he's interested in....write the letter and send them in for him. I did it for Jed and he got a job within a week of doing it
BUT

I do like him taking his leave when you have bub and then quiting....he could also use that time to look for a better job

[squidipa]

Originally Posted by PinkPalace

oh thats sweet. I got visits on his lunch break !lol

yep he even brought he 3 year old too in from 8am to 1 pm then 3pm to 8pm for 6 days in hospital

[PinkPalace]

what a winner squid!

Maz - yeah i think i might run that by him. and then he can give his notice whilst on annual leave. i wonder if he can do that?

[squidipa]

Originally Posted by PinkPalace

what a winner squid!

Maz - yeah i think i might run that by him. and then he can give his notice whilst on annual leave. i wonder if he can do that?

in my opinion take all holiday leave sick days then give notice heck he has earned all that time off why wait it. my hubbie would do this if he wasnt on casual.

[bon]

I used to think when it came to work, DHs happiness is more important than money, but that was before he was unemployed and we had no money and could barely pay the bills. Then neither of us was happy - we were just stressed and angry about the situation we were in. Of course if its a choice to leave a job where he is not happy to go to one that will make him happier, well that's different. DH did that before we had Matilda - left a high paying job in the mines to come home and work for a lot less. But we are both happier now, albeit a bit less well off.