Still grieving..................

[omegaomega]

Greeetings I am new here. My name is Jahmanna I am the mama of five children and one angel baby. Imani was born on Febuary 23, 2008, she was born into my hands slleeping and so beautiful.....
It has taken me this longer to reach out becasue after we let Imani go in the ocean i felt much better it wasn't until her 8 month birthday anniversary that I felt almost back to where I was the day she was born, images of her birth huant me My breast still let down when i think about her....
though I could never replace her I ache to be pregnant again .......
I feel very alone, I have never felt like I can talk with my husband about it he just wants to move on, and this was his second baby he has lost ( he lost his first baby with his ex-wife)
I feel like I should be further along in coping.......
Jahmanna

[spice]

Hi Jahmanna,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious little girl. Everybody takes time to greive so please do not put pressure on yourself that you should be past this stage. Do you have anyone whom you feel compfortable to talk to? or are there any grief counseling services where you are? Bellybelly is a great place to be. There are others here who have experienced loss who I'm sure will reply.

take care

[dd0207]

Hi Jahmann, welcome to BB. The women here are amazing and if it weren't for their love and support, I don't know where I'd be. I am so very sorry for your loss. It takes an enormous amount of strength and courage to get through each day but in time your pain will ease little by little. We will never EVER forget our little angels but somehow we learn to live with what has happened... one foot infront of the other for however long it takes... I really hope you have some nice friends you can lean on during this time, but we are all here for you.

Sending you lots of hugs x

[Nurse Dan]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Their is no timeline for grieving. You do it in your time gorgeous.

[diannescruffy]

Hi,
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. It's been two years since my baby boy was born sleeping and I have not stopped grieving for him. Somehow as time goes on we learn how to deal with our grief and day by day it gets a little easier. I'm so glad you have found BB as you will find lots of comfort and support here. Keep your precious babies memories close to your heart.

Regards,
Dianne

[kristi14]

Sorry for your loss, she sounds beautiful

Like the others have said, dont put pressure on yourself to move on, do it in your own time, its very important.

I remember getting upset with my DH because he seemed to move on when i didnt as quickly.

Sending you lots of strength

[Spring Angel]

I am very sorry for the loss of your little baby Imani. I too have lost a child and so I know your pain. Don't place expectations on yourself as to how you 'should' feel. You can only just let yourself go day by day. It is just over two years since I lost my boy and I still have bad days. There is no timeline to grief so please don't pressure yourself because you think you should have moved on by now.

I highly suggest having a birth debrief. I did, and it helped me to deal with those images which were imprinted in my mind. It is such a painful (not physically but emotionally) experience so don't think that you have to just deal with it and move on without reaching out for help.

About your husband, men greive differently. I found my DH just wanted to keep busy and move on with life. It does catch up with them as it is only now that my DH will admit how grief stricken he is and now it is like dealing with Harry's death all over again.

There is a wonderful thread called parenting after loss which you are welcome to join. Hopefully you will find some comfort in speaking to other women like you.

Take care and be gentle on yourself.

Spring